Societal Expectations … by Alice B. Clagett

Revised; originally published on 8 March 2015

  • WHAT IS ‘NORMAL’?
  • THE INNER TYRANT
  • ON HIDING
  • ON CODEPENDENCE
  • THE FOUR AGREEMENTS

Dear Ones,

WHAT IS ‘NORMAL’?

You know, I am beginning to think there is no such thing as ‘normal.’ It is more like, there is the ‘expected.’ Then we have the ‘unexpected’ … in which lies all the mystery of life.

THE INNER TYRANT

Thoreau had some interesting things to say about the inner critic …

“Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion.

“What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate….

“The greater part of what my neighbors call good I believe in my soul to be bad, and if I repent of anything, it is very likely to be my good behavior. What demon possessed me that I behaved so well?” — from Citation: “Walden, or Life in the Woods,” by Henry David Thoreau, 1854, public domain

ON HIDING

Image: “Baby hiding its eyes, stock photo,” https://previews.123rf.com/images/zurijeta/zurijeta1001/zurijeta100100056/6161010-Baby-hiding-Stock-Photo-baby-face-funny.jpg ..

“The Black Snake,” by notable poet Mary Oliver, speaks of hiding …

Link: “The Black Snake,” by Mary Oliver, https://genius.com/Mary-oliver-the-black-snake-annotated ..

ON CODEPENDENCE

I was reading about a book entitled “Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls”, by Robert Burney, therapist …

Link: “Codependency Recovery Expert Robert Burney,” https://codependentrecoveryexpert.wordpress.com/2014/04/06/codependents-as-emotional-vampires/ ..

From that, I gathered that the false agreements in codependent relationships would be:

  • It is not ok to be emotionally honest
  • Feeling good about myself depends on others’ opinions of me
  • I am not safe
  • I am not loveable

THE FOUR AGREEMENTS

“The Four Agreements are:

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Don’t take anything personally.
  3. Don’t make assumptions.
  4. Always do your best.”

–from “Don Miguel Ruiz,” by Wikipedia, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don_Miguel_Ruiz … CC-BY-SA 3.0

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars

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societal opprobrium, societal expectations, social contracts, sanity, normality, co-dependency, four agreements, hiding, inner critic,

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