Revised; originally published on 9 July 2013
- On Using Love as a Lure
- On ‘Doing’ Love
- On Falling in Love
- On Feigning Romantic Love
- For Women: On Mistaking a Man’s One Night Stand for True Romance
- For Men: On Mistaking a Woman’s Financial Insecurity for True Romance
- For Men: On Being Attached to a Woman Who Likes Two Men
I’m writing this post for an acquaintance of mine, who just can’t locate the politeness to accept me as I am. Don’t you hate it when folks try to make you over in their image? I do, for sure.
I ran across this in an article on deep-sea Female Angler Fish recently:
There are anglerfish living deep in the ocean. It’s dark down there, and the females have bioluminescent ‘lures’ attractive to that which they wish to eat. These ‘lures’ also attract male anglerfish. Once they find a mate, they hold onto her for life. (1)
Image: Female anglerfish with a prominent ‘lure’: http://biologybiozine.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/deepseaanglerfish2.jpg ..
ON USING LOVE AS A LURE
That reminded me of how we humans sometimes use Love as a Lure. I’m speaking of the outward-pouring of love from the heart chakra, not the neutral, unconditional love characteristic of the deep inner heart.
ON ‘DOING’ LOVE
This outward-pouring love is what you might call ‘doing’ love. I’m ‘doing’ love to someone else. And I’ve noticed, when this happens, I’m ‘doing’ it for a reason. Invariably ‘to do’ with my lower chakras. I ‘want’ security. I ‘need’ sex. I ‘have’ to control someone. And there you have it. Love in the service of the Lower Triangle. (2)
ON FALLING IN LOVE
So then, how does the play unfold? ‘I’ ‘love’ ‘you’! WAY SO. ‘You’ ‘love’ ‘me’! WOW. We’re ‘in love’. We get married. And then, onto our stage march insecurity, sexual addiction, greed, possessiveness, jealousy, etc etc and OUT OUT OUT goes the flame of love. o sigh.
ON FEIGNING ROMANTIC LOVE
OR, heaven forfend, we may consciously use the Love Lure to attach a person to us. And then, The Games Begin. Happens often with men — I love you! Wedding bells. And then it’s the Everyday Ed thing – sex on demand. And do the housework. Get the abortion. Go to work to help pay the mortgage.
FOR WOMEN: ON MISTAKING A MAN’S ONE NIGHT STAND FOR TRUE ROMANCE
OR, and this is a man or woman thing: I Love You… o wow! And: Oops! One Night Stand.
AND then sometimes, there’s a sequel: Oops! Pregnant! Who was that masked marauder, anyway?
FOR MEN: ON MISTAKING A WOMAN’S FINANCIAL INSECURITY FOR TRUE ROMANCE
But sometimes it’s a woman thing. I Love You… Wedding bells. uh oh, she really just wants my money. Or my house. Or to destroy my heart utterly.
FOR MEN: ON BEING ATTACHED TO A WOMAN WHO LIKES TWO MEN
Here’s an interesting picture: a female deep-sea angler fish (the big fish in the picture). Using her Love Light (which dangles from the front of her head) she has lured in two male angler fish. They’re a lot smaller than she is. You can see them in the picture, stuck there next to her tail. For life? Guess so. This picture reminds me vividly of a woman I met once. Two men not sufficing, she was angling for a woman lover too.
Image: Female anglerfish with two males attached to her: http://biologybiozine.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/deepseaanglerfish.jpg ..
Dear Lord! Save me! I can definitely see the aLure of Unconditional Love.
In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars
(1) “An Unusual Fish that Lives Deep in the Ocean,” in Biozine, 27 February 2011, biologybiozine.com/2011/02/27/an-unusual-fish-that-lives-deep-in-the-ocean/182/
(2) The lower triangle (in yoga) is the first three chakras (old style): the basal chakra, sexual chakra, and navel point.
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